A friend recently asked Chris why Olivia likes books so much. “Who does she take after?”, she asked. “She takes after Sharon”, he replied.
Later, he thought about this and realised she doesn’t ‘take after’ anyone, she loves books because she’s been nurtured to love them.
Our approach isn’t complicated, or original – we nurture a love of books by having access to them, and reading aloud, a lot.
Following Wednesday’s post and in the spirit of NI bookweek, here are a few thoughts on the simple art of building a family reading culture…
Opening a book and reading to our children is one of the easiest things we can do in our day – no preparation needed, no mess to clean up, no car seats needed to get there. Yet, outside of the “institution” of Bedtime Stories, we don’t always think to read aloud to our kids. But maybe, like me, your children’s bedtime is your worst time of the day and that romantic idea you bought into of reading tenderly to your snugly, pyjama-clad little angels doesn’t help. It took a while for it to dawn on me that I could read books to them anywhere, anytime and that I was better at it (and enjoyed it) in the morning or the afternoon, on the sofa or at the kitchen table or in the car. We have permission to decide when story time is!
Those purple and yellow Libraries NI cards have got to be one of the best parenting tools out there. We are lucky to live within walking distance of our library. (Not to mention the fact that it is serendipitously situated right beside the school gate). We love weekly trips to return books and pick new ones, we love sitting at the little tables reading whatever they pick up and we love the storytimes and special events the library puts on. The library for our girls is part of the weekly routine but it is also somewhere that they can go to in their jammies the first Tuesday night of every month, where they can go in Halloween costumes, or dressed up as animals. It is like a celebrity spotting if they spy one of the Librarians out and about. Of course there have been seasons when the particular ages of my children made library visits stressful, when the idea of the library was much more uplifting that the actuality. In those seasons I think the sanest thing is to visit the library solo (without your travelling circus in tow) and pick the books you know they will enjoy.
Books are Special!
My girls don’t know that some people don’t like books, because according to their own experience, books are special. They are given books as rewards and as presents, so they consider books worthy (which they are!). On their reward charts they collect stickers to get a book, which is pictured at the bottom. (I am a big fan of the Book People and they have such good deals on collections of books which are great for stocking up for this.) When someone gives them a little spending money we take them to a bookshop. They don’t ask to go to a toy shop because we have never mentioned going to a toy shop. Someday they are going to want to go, and that’s fine, but we don’t intend to give them the idea prematurely! This week we went on a bus adventure to Belfast to have a snack and spend birthday money in Waterstones… what’s not to love?! They genuinely do not know (yet!) that that’s not as legit a holiday activity as going to Disneyland. We also have book traditions like their Christmas Book Box that comes down from the roof space with the decorations each December (I stole this idea from my sis-in-law). Each year their Nana buys them a new book for the collection. There is a lot of anticipation about these Christmas books, a lot of feel-good festive feeling, and already some nostalgia.
All I can say is that this Winnie the Pooh: Dramatisation (Stephen Fry, Judi Dench, Geoffrey Palmer) has been the cause of some marital discord in our family. My husband did not get the memo that we do not talk when it is playing in the car. “YOU don’t want to miss a word??” he puzzled.
I don’t want to miss a word. It is perfect.
We use them for car journeys and quiet time in their rooms. A good audiobook is a simple but wonderful thing.
When it comes to children’s books I have a similar attitude to them as what I have to tea: I know what I consider to be a GOOD cup of tea, but frankly, I enjoy all tea. I make tea with great intentionality in my own kitchen, but there is a place in my heart for a vending machine cuppa, in a crappy plastic cup.
As my girls get older I may have more to say about ‘crappy’ books, there may be more at stake, I get that. But at this age there is usually some kind of merit in whatever they pick up at the library, or whenever someone is clearing out books and asks do we want them? (we do). Our kids have certainly brought home some random books from that beloved library… I would not spend money on them, they would not be ‘keepers’ in our house, but they’re alright.
The GOOD books then, the ones we choose with intentionality and spend money on, the ones we keep after every sort and cull – we can find out about these from all sorts of places – from our own experience, from going to bookshops and the library alone for a good old nosey, from friends, from articles. I try to make note of any recommendations I come across that appeal to me. I am also a fan of the Read Aloud Revival podcast (and Sarah MacKenzie’s blog which includes book lists and regular posts on books). Sarah is an American, homeschooling, Catholic mama of 6… she may or may not be your thing. Personally I love her, the guests she has on her podcast and the many, many book recommendations these podcasts provide.
Finally, as it says in the wonderful book Simplicity Parenting, “Kids do not need any one magical book, the newest bestseller or an endless stream of new books, to foster a love of reading. They need time, and mental ease. They need time to read deeply, and sometimes repeatedly. They also need stories that leave some room for their imagination.”
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